How Do You Tell Your Girlfriend She Put On Weight?
Quick question. Which one of these has leads to certain death…
- Slapping Dwayne “The Rock” John son’s face.
2. Entering the lion’s den at a zoo.
3. Suggesting in any way, shape or form that your girl is unattractive.
The Rock has received his fair share of slaps as a wrestler, he won’t feel yours, but he’ll definitely pin you to the ground.
The lions — if grown in captivity — might not attack you as long as you don’t give them your back or scream like a little girl.
You guessed it… Number 3. She’ll either kill you or cut your “thing” off while you sleep. Just kidding — not really…
Our insecurities shape the way we see ourselves. If a girl is self-conscious about the way she looks — like most girls in this Instagram-age — a negative comment about it might not lead to your certain death but it’ll certainly kill her any positive view of herself.
Especially highly emotional girls who’ll stop caring about anything but your comment for the next 10 days. No matter how many times you said. “I was joking, baby, you’re beautiful…”
Don’t know about you but I love my girlfriend too much to see her like that. At the same time I don’t want to lie when she asks…
“Do You Think I’m Fat?”
A confused expression appears on the face of every guy who is asked this question.
It has to be a trick question, right?
Say yes… and you’re a ruthless monster who called her ‘fat’ even if she asked the question.
Say no… And you’re a liar. She is fat and you’re lying to make her feel better. Relationships are supposed to be built on honesty.
It’s a lose-lose situation that can only be solved if understood.
Don’t worry, I got you.
I found a fantastic article on Psychology Today that explains why women feel insecure about their weight and made 3 interesting discoveries:
Discovery Number 1
It’s not about self-esteem. Women and men generally have the same amount of self-esteem. And we have the same amount of insecurities.
Women’s insecurities are just more around their appearance, especially their weight.
Discovery Number 2
Women care about their appearance because it’s a key factor to how they’re perceived by others.
While men also get judged because of their appearance, it doesn’t affect the way they create social bonds or move up in their careers.
Ever noticed how common it is for financially successful men to date relatively unsuccessful — but beautiful — women.
Now, think about how rare it is to find financially successful women dating unsuccessful — but handsome — men.
Discovery Number 3
Sex-y sells.
I don’t want to come across as misogynistic but appearance is the way women compete with other women to find the best guys. The same way men use their financial status to compete with each other.
By using cosmetics, buying clothes and getting fit, women gain social value. It’s a very subconscious thing.
That’s why women are insecure about their weight. What can you do about it?
I watch this Italian TV show called Wedding At First Sight.
They pick two random people, couple them up and see if they can be a married couple for a month or two.
It’s trash TV, don’t worry to watch it.
One of the couples on the show struggles with the fact that the guy doesn’t like his wife’s physique. He thinks she’s fat.
He made her aware of this at dinner and the lady freaked out. She threatened to leave him that same night.
After a couple days of tears, they reconciled and are now a fairly happy couple. Why did she decide to take him back?
Honesty
The first person who said “Truth Hurts” must have had a terrible but satisfying life.
Most people — including you and I— don’t want to hear the truth. We like our distorted view of reality.
“I’m a nice person.”
“If you’re so nice, why didn’t you give the change you had to the homeless man outside the supermarket…?”
“F%$k you, son of a b&}#h!!! I’m gonna-”
When someone challenges our view of reality, we get defensive — or offensive.
You’ve got to tell your girl exactly what you think. It’s going to hurt but, if she’s with you for the long run, she’ll come around.
Honesty is one of the most underrated qualities in men and women.
So many people would rather lie to avoid confrontation than tell the truth.
If you haven't, you should watch the movie Liar Liar, with Jim Carrie. It’s one of the funniest movies ever.
It’s a story about an attorney who can’t lie for 24 hours because his son wished it for his birthday. Sure, Jim Carrie’s in it, everything he does is funny, but the movie is doubly funny because he says things — true things — we’ve all wanted to say.
It gets him in a little trouble but in the end, he lives his relationships at work and in his personal life get because of it.
How do you go about telling her she’s fat?
Being honest doesn’t give you permission to be a douche.
At the same time try to be direct. Dancing around what you want to say only makes things worst.
Sure you could say. “… Baby, you’ve gained some weight lately…”
But she’d clap back at you. “Are you trying to say I’m fat…?”
To avoid that, be honest and direct without being rude.
Now, I won’t tell you exactly what to say. It’s better if you say it in your own words.
If your girl’s very insecure about such things, expect an extreme reaction. Stay calm and remember the lion’s den analogy I made earlier… Don’t turn your back or scream.
If You’re Afraid To Tell The Truth Do This… (Only Extreme Cases)
I feel you. The courage to say such things can’t be summoned easily, especially when your girl poses you the question instead of you bringing it up.
Supposing you’re a good partner, you should have noticed if she gained some weight beforehand.
If I were you, I’d use it as a way to do something together. Start going to the gym, hiking or running together.
It’ll strengthen your relationship — if you still love them when they’re sweaty and stinky, it has to be true love.
This goes both ways. Unless, you’re fat too and don’t like going doing physical exercise. I’m not the guy to help you with that.
woop woop, it’s the sound of da police, woop woop…
The woke-internet police will be after me. I said the “f” word so many times in this article…
How dare I, skinny guy, judge others for their body shape…
Look, I think the fat-shaming thing relates to what I told you earlier about people living in their own reality. When they’re confronted with the truth — i.e. that they’re fat — they get defensive — or claim to be “Big-Boned,” whatever that means.
There’s nothing wrong with being fat. Period.
